My Office By The Sea
On Friday we dropped my client off at the airport after a lovely 'last lunch together' looking out across the port.
We had conducted most of our sessions in a taverna looking out over sea too... The first time we arrived to work together, it seemed to be slightly to the chagrin of the waiters...
Me with another man...!
But they adjusted and on the last day Anadi joined us anyway...
As we were all settling down to decide what to eat for lunch, one of the waiters decided my client, a businessman - who perhaps had a look of the business man even in hot weather attire - might be interested in buying property and took him to show him where there are four apartments for sale...!
'The word has got out that we are nomads' Anadi laughed, 'so they wouldn't ask us...!'
Stories about one another are being made up at all time.... And of course many of these projections are accurate.
But they are still coming through the filter of our own experience.
The secret is to test them out before acting as if they are the truth.
And to prevent false projection, clearing and cleaning our own mirror is the key....
This means that focusing on our own reactions and our own lessons, is the only thing that is truly important...
What other people are doing is to do with them, nothing is personal, even when it seems to be because it feels hurtful or distressing...
As we heal our own hurt, we discover that even if someone has done what we deem to be an unkind act to us, it is to do with them, not us...
It is only to do with us if it lands on us...
And if it does, then it is our responsibility is to heal our own hurt...
From this place we are in a position to ask for behaviour change from another... However as we heal it is unlikely we will need to do that, as our inner mirror will be reflecting the love within us....
Always being curious about what is reflected around us, and what is coming to us, means that we are able to take deeper and deeper responsibility for our lives... We can fully acknowledge that the universe is within u, and what we are experiencing on the outside is a reflection of our inner state...
As Ghandi advises us
'You must be the change you want to see in the world'
